One of my personality traits is that I am a people pleaser. I try to fix things. I hate it when there is discord or tension.
I will often try to "fix" the problem, even at the expense of my own happiness. When someone is upset, I swoop in, and bend over backwards to relieve any tension.
Its really tough for me to realize and remember that I can't always fix things. And that I shouldn't always have to be the one to make things better.
I lose sleep over things that I have no control over. I mull it over all day, thinking up various solutions or even trying to come up with reasons for why there is unhappiness in the first place.
I'm trying to keep reminding myself that I can't always make everyone happy and that I shouldn't have to take the weight of it all upon my shoulders.
Sometimes other people's issues just can't be my issues.
I'm learning, but trying to shut off a part of my personality is like trying to remove a limb. I can't seperate myself from this trait just like I can't just remove an arm or a leg.
I can't do it all. I wish I could, but I know I can't be the one to carry the burden for everyone.
I've done what I can for now. The rest isn't up to me.