tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33357714.post6047993303968010617..comments2023-10-12T01:28:53.403-06:00Comments on Graham Family: StrugglingJanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06221780120338522194noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33357714.post-15441933977062387762013-05-26T18:44:07.787-06:002013-05-26T18:44:07.787-06:00A mutual friend of ours alerted me to this post an...A mutual friend of ours alerted me to this post and I'm so sad reading it. I'm sorry for your loss and cannot even imagine how hard that must have been. To have been in the "expert" role with no experience. I really hope that it doesn't cause you to stop though. No matter what has happened between us personally, I will always and forever be grateful for your support before, during and after my pregnancy. You really are an amazing doula! CanadianMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02830797268318076910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33357714.post-11375676301781577162013-05-24T00:36:05.004-06:002013-05-24T00:36:05.004-06:00Oh Janice, I really need some practice on this who...Oh Janice, I really need some practice on this whole "being a friend" thing. I'm so sorry that I didn't know you were feeling this way. I'm especially sorry for your feelings of loss for that baby boy and his parents. I can only imagine what that whole situation must've been like. I know I talked to you back when it happened, but I definitely didn't know that it was still affecting you like this. I hope this doesn't turn you away from being a doula. I have always admired what you do. You are brave and caring and I love your heart. Please continue to share it. I'm also sorry that your community isn't what you thought it was. I've been there my friend. It hurts. I hope things get better. I love you. Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05356228422782774634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33357714.post-42057662725752717782013-05-23T21:41:33.443-06:002013-05-23T21:41:33.443-06:00Oh, Sweetie......What a heart wrenching thing to b...Oh, Sweetie......What a heart wrenching thing to be part of. You cannot DO anything to help, just be there. I'm sure you felt helpless and are afraid you don't know what to do in the case of another tragedy. All you really need to do is be there. Love them. I'm sure your presence at the birth of the little boy was more of a support to the mom and dad than you know. I thank God for Chris - the things he does for you, to strengthen and soothe you - you can then have the strength to do the same for your clients. Just do whatever comes to your hand as far as practical things are concerned. Don't be sorry that you feel so deeply. It hurts you, yes, but that deep feeling reaches out to others who are hurting and gives them strength. <br /><br />I'm sorry you are bing somehow excluded from your circle of friends. I know how that feels.<br /><br />Call me if you want to talk, but know that I will be thinking of you and praying for you.<br /><br />I love you and I'm proud of your loving, caring, openness. The risk of loving much is hurting much but it is always better to love and then hurt than to not love at all.<br /><br />Big hug.Karynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633714411687511297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33357714.post-50963703308824450182013-05-23T18:35:45.407-06:002013-05-23T18:35:45.407-06:00I'm sorry for your experience in loss. You are...I'm sorry for your experience in loss. You are so well written that your pain and feelings touched me to tears and I've only ever chatted with you on fb but I feel that if I were part of your immediate circle, is be a support you could count on and I would proudly stand by you and give you a hug. I pray for you and the family of the child who was gone too soon. God give you all strength to go on and and to rebuild the confidence you once had. Continue your blessed gift of giving and sharing Janice. XoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10495354505304616795noreply@blogger.com